Thursday was the slaughter of the innocents at Casa Alexander. At 6 a.m. I opened the door curtains and there was my cat, Oscar, demanding entrance next to a dead baby jackrabbit, possibly my favorite wild animal. A few feet back was a dead baby mouse. At 9 a.m. I looked out and he was eating a baby wild turkey (poult). At 6 p.m. he was at the door and next to the dead mouse was a dying baby turkey, smaller than the one he ate. It died quickly, thank goddess.

I disposed of the jackrabbit (hare) immediately, throwing it over the side of the hill. Our house is cut into the side of a hill. I left the legs from Oscar’s brunch and the dead poult from the afternoon kill. The next morning the dead baby was gone as was the corpse of the jack. I almost always leave corpses and body parts because we have skunks and opossums (I don’t want to know what other critters) who carry off the carrion.

On Friday the legs were still on the patio. Late afternoon Oscar was demanding that I let him out and I nearly did. However, when I got to the door I looked out and a young skunk, probably just kicked out of the nest, was eating the baby turkey legs. I live in the budget movie version of the Wild Kingdom.

I liken my experience of living through the first part of a pandemic to spending 13 months in a minimum security prison.  Scary at first because everything was new.  I didn’t know all the rules and the risks of this abrupt new existence.  Just what I imagine the first days and weeks in any prison would be like.

A friend shopped for me, I opened boxes on the patio, congratulated myself on having a year’s supply of toilet paper on hand.  I learned to love the smell of Lysol as I wiped down everything that came into the house and wiped down everything in the car that I might touch when I had to drive.

I bought a Kindle when the library closed.  Never did learn to check out books with it but bought a few and a friend who uses Kindle exclusively loaned me many best sellers and new releases of some of our favorite authors.  I also bought books (way too many) and was able to mostly bypass Amazon by shopping with Elizabeth’s of Akron, a member of a national independent bookstore association, where the discount was almost as generous as Amazon’s.

I knew early on that this was a 100-year pandemic as I frequently saw it compared to the 1918 Spanish Influenza which killed millions worldwide.  I read John M. Barry’s book The Great Influenza so I had an idea about what was coming.  March 15 our California governor asked everyone older that 65 to self-isolate.  Having turned 80 yers old the previous month I took it seriously.

March 23 I ordered The Year of the Plague, by Defoe; The Plague, by Camus; and Masque of the Red Death, by Poe.

By March 31 I was taking my temperature several times a day.  I knew this pandemic was bad, thought I knew the risks and what I had to do, and just hunkered down in my apartment for what I knew could be as long as 18 months.  To me, 18 months in 100 years seemed doable.

In May I told a friend that if our situation was like the Spanish Flu pandemic in 1918 that the time of sickness and death would probably extend to 18 to 24 months.  She laughed at my prediction and said she was going to start calling me Cassandra.

Thanks to science and a big push from the government, backed by lots of money ($1 million of it from Dolly Parton), many lives would be saved in wealthy countries by production of vaccines in record time. On February 12 I got my first Pfizer shot and March 5 the second.  On the way home in March I picked up a Double Double and fries at In-n-Out.  Don’t tell me I don’t know how to celebrate.

And now, vaccinated and still healthy, I feel like I’ve been released to a halfway house.  Still wearing masks in public, still social distancing from most people, but the parameters have been slightly relaxed.  A couple of weeks after the second shot friends and I went to breakfast (outside) at a favorite restaurant for the first time in 13 months.  Last week I attended my first dinner party (all vaccinated old people) in 13 months.

It’s not over.  People are still getting sick with COVID-19 and still dying from it.  There are variants we don’t know much about. I won’t say my experience was easy, but probably it was much easier than what large numbers of our citizens experienced.  I didn’t have children locked in with me, I wasn’t trying to help children learn to navigate school on Zoom, I didn’t lose a job then not be able to get unemployment insurance, I didn’t face eviction or foreclosure, I did not go hungry, I did not get COVID-19, I did not have any friends or family die from it.  Plus, I’m an introvert and used to spending time at home, alone.

Maybe by Christmas we can say it’s over.

A bunch of years ago Melissa Joulwan wrote a post about New Year Resolutions that made so much sense (so why didn’t I adopt it back then?).  I printed it out and put it in a binder and never saw it again until a week ago.  I knew I was rarely succeeding with resolutions and didn’t understand.  Friends occasionally pointed out that I might want to start slower and smaller and I didn’t listen.  When I read her post last week I had an aha moment.

She wrote, “No more New Year Resolutions.

“I’m trying something different.  What if I don’t set goals but instead, simply behave like the best version of myself?

“Then I would become her.

“The best me eats clean and sleeps well and cleans house and smiles a lot.

“The best version of me knows that she’s not required to eat clean or meditate or get solid sleep.  She doesn’t have to pick up after herself, wash dishes, vacuum, dust or scoop the litter box.  There is no accounting ledger keeping track of exemplary behavior for a reward later.  There is no opportunity to earn a metaphorical gold star but I can reward myself with real heart and star stickers.  Just because I love stickers.

“The clean eating and meditation and dusting, the sound sleeping and the blog posting are the reward.  They are the thing.

“The best version of me refuses to be measured by some external yardstick.”

And then I wrote, the best version of me happily goes to bed early, wakes up refreshed, eats Wahls Paleo, cleans house, writes and takes photos, meditates every morning, is kind and funny, cooks a lot of good food, and sings out loud.  And occasionally dances like no one’s looking.

Then back to Melissa, “Not because I must.

“Because I want to.  Because that’s me.  The best me.”

Last week I designed a very ambitious routine that would make time for everything.  I made an agreement with myself that for one week I will attempt to live with the routine and make notes about what works well and fairly easily, and what needs to be modified.  No criticism or judgment, only observation.

The other agreement I made with myself is that I will start small and increase in very tiny increments.  I will do two yoga poses twice each morning.  After a week I will increase to two yoga poses done three times each morning.  I will walk 20 minutes (minimum) a day and after a month increase the time to 25 minutes a day.  The physician from whom I stole this suggestion wrote a book about starting very small and he had many stories about his patients who recovered their health after a year or so using his suggestions.

meljoulwan.com

Feel Better in 5: Your Daily Plan to Feel Great for Life, by Dr. Rangan Chatterjee